Human connection sparks our belongingness in a group and ignites our identity and oneness with others. The real revelation of our identity is the relationship we have with God, and it is with no overstatement that we have to have a good relationship with ourselves first before we can start any connection. As we go through the inspiring takeaways from Erwin McManus’ The Way of the Warrior, learn the war between light and darkness and the certainty that we, as warriors, shall chase God more than anyone and live in harmony.
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Connection & Oneness With All Things
I hope you’re doing great. I’m excited about the show. I’m reading The Way of the Warrior by Erwin McManus and I love it. Not everything in that book has been something I’ve felt led to talk about. If I can’t speak passionately about it, I’m not going to talk about it. It’s hard for me to do it. That’s why I’m taking a break also from having guests. I’m feeling led to start teaching. I’m done coming from this place of the past. I want to teach these things I’m learning because I’m real. If I’m passionate about it. I have this feeling that you guys are going to be able to get it, you’re going to like it and you’re going to enjoy it and want to be a part of it. I want to welcome you for joining. We’re talking about being a warrior, but being a warrior is one with all things.
This is fitting because my nickname is The World’s Mayor and it’s because I believe that everybody gets to win. Jason Sisneros is on. One of his companies is one of the most amazing. They rescue businesses and companies that are on fire, they love the rescue them. I think it’s a superhero complex, but the fact is they’re good at it. They do more than that because a lot of the lessons that happened on the deep dive with Anton Jae is that they changed everything. How you do one thing is how you do everything. It’s a rebuild. It’s a breaking down, rebuilding and setting up this powerful base, this foundation, this infrastructure for you to be able to launch off of. How many of us in our personal lives, things are a little bit messy, but we’re trying to launch this billion-dollar company, but yet our foundations a little cracked. You’re not going to go far with that. It’s a dream. The lessons I’ve learned through these deep dives with Anton Jae, and it’s not just Jason, it’s Joe as well, is that there’s a lot of stuff that hits you right at the center of your heart. It goes, “If I’m doing this in my business, this is probably how I’m showing up in my relationship too. This is how I’m treating other people. I’ve created this hierarchy of what it is to be great or who’s worthy of being a part of my life.”
Having A Plan Is Everything
It shifts this mindset that we have about everything. The irony is I’ve learned more about my faith through a deep dive with Anton Jae, but I’ve learned a lot about my faith and the discipline that it takes to get to that higher level that I believe I can get to with my faith. If you don’t have a plan, you got nothing and you have to have a plan to have a relationship, with my case, with Christ or with God. You have to have a plan because the plan is everything. Working with them has transformed it. The reason why I brought this up is that they happen to work with somebody that I referred to them. In a few days, the texts that are going back and forth, this woman knows their lives have been transformed. They are sitting on a mini-empire, if not a big empire. They’ve all of these amazing assets, but they weren’t coming together. Every day I was getting this message back about, “This is amazing working with Jason.” To me at the end of that, it’s knowing that I made the referral because I believe in Jason, I believe in what they’re doing. To see her win, they made an investment to work with him, but they also know that it was a life-changing investment that they could not do without.When we are disconnected, we experience isolation and loneliness. Click To Tweet
War Between Light And Darkness
It’s changed their life. In a few days, her life was changed and it wasn’t about the business. It’s how we do everything. I love wins. Part of wins, the reason why I’m talking about any of this is that to do that, we get to see people for who they are and that is a child of God. It’s nothing else. Not your skin color, not your sexual identity, not your religion, not what hair cut you have or how many tattoos and piercings you have, none of them. You’re a child of God. We get to work with one, like we are one with all things and we’ve gotten far away from that. That’s what we’re going to discuss. This is called The Warrior Becomes One with All Things.
They understand that it is the darkness that separates. Darkness, isolation, living in the shadows, away from the truth. The further away from the truth, the darker in the shadows you are. They understand that it is the darkness that separates. The light brings all things together. Those of you with the darkest past, the stuff that you don’t want people to know about, that is a firecracker of light waiting to be used. All those things that you are ashamed of, that you’re hiding and you’re keeping in secret, all of those things are light waiting to explode for you. The joy that comes with that explosion, I cannot begin to tell you. God created man in relation to himself. God created humanity in relationship to creation. The warrior understands that the war is between light and darkness, between connection and his connection, between oneness and fragmentation.
If no one’s figured out yet, the news is the most twisted thing. It is not telling you the truth. It’s all meant to divide you to get you to pick a side, even religions are doing that. The church does that, like you’re not Christian enough or you don’t fall this way or you don’t do this or you don’t do that. All of that is a charade and nonsense and it’s keeping us away from the truth. The warrior understands themselves to have been created to be one with God, one with others and one with creation. The warrior finds themselves when they are connected to all things. All of this stuff that is separating us, it’s keeping us from being one. I can’t tell you enough. This is going to make some people mad, but the more I read the Bible, the more I start to question why most of the churches I’ve been in do not spend more time going through the Torah and the Old Testament in general.
To me, that in itself is something. There’s something in that bothers me. I don’t know why because the more time I spend reading the Old Testament, the more the true nature of God starts to appear. That’s the stuff I want to be a part of. I know people talk about, “They’re only trying to divide us,” but in every single thing, we are divided. We are responsible for the division. There’s no one that’s not guilty of this. The more away from connectedness that we are, the further from God we are. I’m sorry, but God is the source of all things. The more that we draw the dividing line between you’re black, you’re Asian, you’re Russian, you’re gay, you’re transgender, you’re a Baptist, you’re a Catholic, you’re a Buddhist, you’re Hindu, you’re Rastafarian, whatever.
I got so sick of saying I have a borderline personality disorder and then claiming any of that. That’s what I get bothered with addicts saying, “I am an addict. I’m Josh and I am an addict.” Why are you claiming that? Why are you giving that power? I understand that it’s going to make some of you mad, especially if you have been in AA for most of your life, but the fact is you are claiming that that’s what you are. If you were truly set free from something, you are not claiming it. Most of you could rise above your addiction and break free from it. I believe it. I don’t know why. Maybe I’m insane. It’s something about labeling yourself anything other than your name and who you were created to be. That is the only thing that I want to go around claiming. Sometimes for us to see the perfect picture, we have to see the missing pieces.
The Mirror Work & The Power Of A Journal
Mirror work is powerful or your shadow work. There are a lot of reasons I’m thankful for Jason Sisneros. Him being the first man I ever felt safe around. That was something, I know that’s weird, but whatever. There are a lot of different things that I’ve learned from him that I’m honored to have learned. The thing that is probably the most powerful is him beating in my head, “You’ve got to embrace your shadow.” I learned how to dance with it a little bit. I didn’t know what it meant and it wasn’t for him to tell me. I had to figure it out. It’s not about loving your shadow. It’s not about running from it. It’s not about any of that. It’s about recognizing that it’s there and allowing it to do what it’s supposed to do. That’s to teach you what you get to do to be the best version of yourself. You can watch all the personal development videos you want. It’s not going to change a thing for you if you’re not willing to do the work. Everyone I know that’s been broken free and as some of you like to say, “Vibrating way up here,” every one of those people I know did the work and more importantly did the work.The further away from truth, the darker in the shadows you are. Click To Tweet
Life is not something that you get to put Band-Aids on. It is way more freeing to be willing to break yourself, to be willing to go there is a place for healing. I promise you, the thing is this is going to scare some of you off a little bit, but the fact is this. The longer you wait, the more difficult it is. The good news is it’s nothing you can’t do because you have all the tools and you’ll get more tools as you ready for them. You’ll get the tools that you need to overcome anything that you need to overcome. All of it’s available for you, but it does get harder. What are you waiting for? The motivational videos are great. The inspiration, watching sermons, whatever it is that you love to do on YouTube. You’ve got to do the work and the work is worth it. I’ve got to get back to this. I told all the addicts I used to work with not to identify with that. There’s so much more than a label. The work is worth it and it does make life easier.
I’m curious what you think about this, but it seems like you can do the work and you get to this place where you’re doing well. You could coast, but one of the most powerful things that you can do for yourself is to write, to keep a journal. The reason why is there’s a lot of power in writing, but one thing that you can do is go back and reference your journal. When you date your journal, one way to tell that you’ve started coasting or you’ve fallen off track is when you go to your journal and the last time you wrote in it was a few months ago. The reason I’m saying that is because you got too cool for yourself and you’re like, “I’m doing good, I feel great. Now I’m going to tie one off.” The next thing you know, you didn’t journal the next day. You didn’t have your quiet time the next day. All of a sudden, it’s like, “I’ll go out again tonight.” The next day, you didn’t do your quiet time. Next thing you know, you’ve created momentum going back to the other way. A few months later you’re like, “How do I get to this point? How do I end up in jail again? How’d this happen? Who’s next to me?” My bank account is negative $650. How’d that happen? It happens that fast. Doing the work, you do fall in love with it.
Let’s say that Jesus wasn’t real for some reason. One of the greatest mind tricks of all time is that this part of personal development, sometimes it’s tough to stay motivated. I’m willing to do the work. When you have a relationship with somebody, you have accountability with somebody. When you have accountability with somebody, sometimes you get little subtle reminders like, “I need some attention. How many of you have been in a relationship like that?” The wife’s going, “Could you get off of Maxim.com? Could you get off the Game Boy and talk to me for a second? Can you hang out with me?” You get a little nudge and then when you ignore long enough, and I’m speaking from past experience. I’m not tossing that you’ve done this at all. I would never do that. I’m talking about me. Next thing you know, it’s gone from these little subtle gentle reminders to, “You’re sleeping with someone else. I know something’s going on,” and going off and you’re like, “What happened?” The questions of like, “Are you cheating on me? Are you bored? Are you hanging out with someone else? Who are you talking to on the phone?”
That stuff comes out. Could that have been avoided? Instead, the thing I like is when there’s that accountability like that relationship that I have with Christ, which is cool, is that I get those little nudges. Maybe I should spend some more time with Him. We get little nudges like that. I like it. Do you know why I like it? I like it because it helps me stay on track. If I tried to take control of my life, I am steamrolling that baby right into jail or probably even my casket. I know what I do when I try to take control. I know the old man, the ego that takes over. It’s not Old Testament versus the New. It’s a story of a journey, a learning lesson, so much more of the richness, the guarding of humanity, the need to understand our need for dependence on God. Yes, they’re horror, but isn’t that in the world now? The Old showed us our need for Jesus. Journaling is awesome. Put labels on a box. Journaling does work. Everyone is talking about journaling. It’s powerful. When you can go back and can see what you wrote about before and you can see if you’re growing, you can see how you handled those situations. Journaling, even though it’s going back on the past a little bit, it’s preparing you for the future because you can use it as a guide in the future.
Fear Of Intimate Connections
It’s amazing, all the different things. You should even keep a journal for your business especially if you’re in sales. It’s for remembering situations, remembering problems, remembering like, “I dealt with that situation,” or, “I met that person and they said, ‘Call me December 12th,’ and it’s now December 12th.” It’s powerful for all things, being able to keep a record. We can understand our need for correctness only by recognizing that we are disconnected. Our most obvious disconnection is with each other. What we long for most, what we fear most is an intimate connection. We’re designed for it, yet at the center of our struggles is a relationship.
I know for me, I was having this conversation and it was talking about being sober during sex. I was talking about the fact that I, for the longest time, for most of my life that I can remember, I had to be under the influence to have sex to give a false sense of intimacy. I had many bad choices I’ve made in relationships because I drank. You spend the first few months getting drunk together. No wonder you don’t notice the signs of this person’s not for you. Drink the spirit away. Why are we afraid of intimacy? Our soul suffocates when we lack meaningful relationships. How many of us have those shallow friendships where they almost lead you as co-dependent, as the person you’re sleeping with? How many of those have co-dependent friendships? We fear rejection. We release the fear. We long for intimacy. When we’re disconnected, we experience isolation and loneliness. If disconnection prevails, it turns into bitterness and disdain. It’s true. We’re talking about that. Going from, “Will you spend some time with me? Will you hang out with me?” To a couple of months later, those nudges turn into accusations or little snips like that nasty stuff. How many of us have been in that? Guys are easier disconnected like, “Feed me. Have sex with me.” It’s different.Life is not something that you get to put Band-Aids on. Click To Tweet
Women do like quality time more so than men. At the same time, men, pay attention to your wives or somebody else will. That’s the way it works. We can see the outcome of disconnection whenever there are hatred, hostility and violence. We divide by race, color, gender, economic and social status, but in the end, these perceived differences are simply symptomatic of issues of our disconnection. Scripture allows us to see that that disconnect between us in humanity is symptomatic from our disconnection from God. Human brokenness is not an isolated phenomenon. It is a result of the breakdown between God that was never intended to happen and us. Before Cain killed his brother Abel, he severed his relationship with God.
When Adam and Eve broke their relationship with God, it damaged their relationship with each other. Whether you believe in Adam and Eve or not, it’s not for the discussion, but this is for the sake of storytelling. You’ve heard of sins of the father, you’ve heard of generational curses, it was a part of a powerful prayer session about breaking generational curses. That was fun. It was a powerful experience. You’ve heard of all that. That disdains and distrust because Adam threw Eve under the bus. He blamed it on her. He didn’t accept responsibility for what he did. He was the dope that ate the apple, but he blamed it on Eve. What is that? That’s not loving. Not accepting responsibility for your actions is not a sign of love. Blaming someone else is not a sign of love and it’s not the truth. It’s not honest. It’s a disconnect from God because the closer we are to God, the more we are aware that isn’t the thing to do.
Repent before God restores a broken person. We have everything we need within ourselves, the Holy Spirit, which Christ said to dwell in us. He loved the world. I’m reading The Way of the Warrior. It’s good. All of those things continued, now there’s more murder, there’s more betrayal, there’s more cheating. All this stuff keeps on happening. Sure enough, now we live in this world where there are wars. I’m sorry, but there are women with their boobs hanging out and everything trying to give sexy motivational quotes. That’s the most mind-blowing the thing to me in the world. I can see your nipples and you’ve got this Bible verse. I don’t get it. There’s something sexy about modesty. If I can already see the goods, what do I need you for? It’s shocking because I’m a pervert. I am a pervert. It’s something that I’ve worked on through my relationship with Christ, to have a healthy relationship with sex.
If I let my mind go, my mind can go because it’s been to some places and I’m creative. I can imagine all kinds of fantasy. I get that, but it breeds nothing good because if I’m looking at you like a piece of meat, you are prey. When you show off your assets and let people see the bulge in your pants or your big perky nipples, your see through clothes and all of that stuff, if you’re letting me see that, I’m not looking at you for your heart because I can’t see your heart. As a man, that’s what I see. I see the goods. I see the business and so does everyone else. That means you’re going to get treated like the object that you’ve made yourself. I’m telling you like it is. You may find someone that’s blind, but what I appreciate most now, the first thing I can see or what I’m looking for that’s the first thing I see is the woman’s heart; not her boobs, not her butt, not her abs, not her legs. I’m going to notice her face, her hair and eyes, but working in cosmetics, that’s almost impossible, and lashes too. I want to see. I want to feel their heart. I want to feel and I want that to be what I see. I love boobs and I’m still a guy.
If you’re wondering why your relationships aren’t going anywhere or why you’re getting cheated on or why you’re getting hurt, we got to get honest with ourselves and look. Men, we’re just as bad because we push for that. Our monkey brains want to pounce because that’s what we’re genetically created to do, it’s to go hunt, kill, pounce, conquer. My attitude is slowly shifted on all this stuff and a lot of it had to do with having somebody that I had sex with in high school come onto my show and tell me how she’s still affected. I’m 39 now. Having that conversation with Laurie was tough. It’s good though because it created a space for healing and then find out that her son has also been molested and there was a moment there that that allowed for healing. To think about all the times I looked at a woman like she was a piece of prey, “I’m going to conquer you.” Let’s not even get into the drug conversations. I don’t even want to go there, but there are plenty of episodes where I talk about it. It’s not the time now. That didn’t feel good in my heart.
Noticing the contrast of what it’s like to honor a woman and to also love myself enough to make the right choice for who’s right for my heart, who’s right for me to carry out my vision with or the vision that God has put on my heart to carry out. Hopefully, those visions, I believe they should be aligned personally. Getting real with that and that relationship, there are consequences to sleeping around. I live them every day. They’ve probably found a cure for HIV. I’m undetectable. It’s wonderful. Thank God for the people who fought for that to be possible all those years. Thank God for the people that had to die. I hate it, but they did. Those people, they died to allow me to be able to be healthy, but there are consequences for it. There are other STDs. There’s pregnancy. I have a daughter that’s nineteen that I didn’t know about until she was three. I pray every day that God will be able to heal her from the trauma that she’s been through.The warrior understands that they are most powerful when they are one, when they are undivided and committed to the whole. Click To Tweet
Chase God, Not Feelings
There are consequences for our actions and this hurt, the hurt that we caused, the hurt that we take, the hurt that we inflict on other people. That hurt breaks our connection with God. It keeps us from going there when in all actuality that’s when we should run to him the most. Sometimes we have to go through these traumatic events to run back to God, but the beauty though is he didn’t go anywhere ever. If you continually seek him, you are more conditioned to deal with traumas and tragedy. You are more conditioned because your armor is built up and you’re able to look at those situations. I know a lot of people experienced death. To every death that I’ve been aware of, there’s been something beautiful to grow out of it, and death is hard to go through. I truly believe that we’re able to shift our thinking much faster and that comes with our relationship with God and also with relationship, there’s trust. Unlike having to earn someone’s trust in a relationship, it’s ironic that we have to learn how to trust the guy that created us. How weird is that? That should be the easy one. It’s easier to trust and let it go. Surrender it.
It’s the same when men wear their money. I can’t give a female’s perspective on this issue. There’s way too much shame for not looking like a magazine picture. I get to talk about it. Why is everyone photoshopping their photos? Especially the people that are photoshopping their photos and then talking about how they’re single and they’re looking or they’re going on dates. Did you ever think that maybe you’re not getting a second date because you Photoshop the pictures you were using? That when you showed up on the date and you didn’t look like the person in the pictures. May it have thrown him off a little bit? It’s like stuffing your bra, but way worse. That’s your face. You’re beautiful. There’s someone out there that is going to love your mug, but they’re going to love your mug a lot easier if you are living in truth. If you’re honest with yourself, quit photoshopping your life. No one cares. It breaks my heart and I’m the idiot that blew over $1 million in a few months being an idiot, trying to be that guy, trying to be the one flashing. I bought a $105,000 car for no reason. The endless amounts of cocaine, irresponsible decisions, traveling first-class non-stop like a moron, making bad business decisions, doing more drugs, it’s not fulfilling.
I get to prove with God because God is not going to give you anything that you can’t handle and it’s not the bad stuff. It’s also the perceived good stuff. If you’re not a good manager of your home, of your business, of the money that you have, if you’re not a good manager of it, God’s not going to give you more. Those of you praying for billions of dollars, those of you praying for millions of dollars, look at how you handle, how you respect, how much gratitude you have for what you already have. You’re begging for a new car and you’ve got McDonald’s and Taco Bell and I’m only doing this because I’ve done it. Del Taco, Taco Bell. I went to In-N-Out Burger. I got a chocolate shake and then stopped at Del Taco an hour later and I justified that. I didn’t do it recently, but I did do that.
I remember being in shame that there were wrappers in the seats. That’s disgusting. This is years ago, but that’s not respecting what I have. How I make my bed, how I keep the forest clean. How you manage what you have has been burned in my brain now. It matters and it makes me want to appreciate what I have so much more. I already do. I live on gratitude, miracles and blessings. That has made me be more grateful for what I have and appreciate it more. I started hanging up t-shirts because I felt bad because I sucked at folding. It’s in my head now. We know ourselves best when we are known best by others. When we are interconnected to people, we do not lose ourselves. In fact, we find ourselves. How many times have I said over and over again, I’m going to keep saying it, “In your truth, you will find your tribe?” I promise you that if you are not living in truth, those people around you that you’re afraid to lose are not your people.
I’m not even talking about your friends. I’m talking about the people that get to come on your life to help you carry out your mission. Those people cannot come to you until you live in truth. This is not blasphemous. All your spiritual people can Google it. It’s there. I promise. Your truth unlocks superpowers that we were all given in every little thing that you’re hiding away in your closet. It’s killing you. You may not see it yet, but it’s killing you. If anything, it’s keeping you from being who God created you to be. Put that on your mantle, your motivational quotes. What am I doing to be who God created me to be now?
What am I going to do now to be the man that God created me to be? It could be as simple as picking up the phone and asking for forgiveness from someone that you’ve hurt. It could be forgiving someone else. The forgiveness thing is powerful. That’s everything free. I swear to you. Maybe some of you don’t even understand what I’m talking about. Maybe you don’t know what I’m talking about. I want to ask you if you were going, “What is Josh talking about? He’s out of his mind.” I’m going to ask you something. Who in your life have you not forgiven? I know there’s someone. Now is a good time to forgive. Do you want to see what I’m talking about? Radical forgiveness is one of the most powerful things you will ever do in your life because maybe you have more than one person to forgive and I cannot begin to tell you what that’s keeping you from. Your tribe does not obscure your identity, but it reveals it.God is not going to give you anything that you can't handle. Click To Tweet
That’s true too. Look around you. What does your tribe say about you? Who are you? What do you represent? The gratitude changes everything. Even make a bad situation more workable. Amen. Live and walk in truth, always with freedom. Read It Works, a simple book about God’s universe and how it works. Forgiveness is freedom for you, not the person who hurt you. It does feel good to hear that you’re forgiven, but then when you’re having it thrown into your face it’s like, “I thought I was forgiven?” “I forgave you, but I didn’t forget.” I never want to hear those words again. I represent kindness and love, my tribe. That’s beautiful.
The Beauty Of Stepping Into Fear
As we give ourselves completely to him, we come to know ourselves more clearly. This is what I was talking about. That relationship is what I believe feeds the spirit. It gives it its Wheaties. It’s building it up and it makes it stronger. You are more aware like, “You should avoid that relationship,” or, “Maybe you shouldn’t go work that job.” “Maybe you should walk out of that relationship,” or, “Maybe you should give $20 to that homeless person,” or, “Maybe you should lean down and talk to that kid that’s over there by himself on the basketball court.” Talk to him and then you find out why. I’m convinced that the more personal your relationship is with God is not only do you become more aware. That’s it. It’s not that surface level. When I say aware, I mean aware of your gift in how much of it you get to use for other people. You become aware of situations to avoid or situations to take.
You become more confident in the crazy decision that you were feeling led to make. It’s that thing that’s burning in your chest. It’s going, “Go,” but you’re scared. You’re scared to go, but it’s beating out of your chest that you’ve got to go. You’ve got to take that risk and it defies logic. Maybe people are going to disagree with your decision or call you crazy. Maybe they’re going to go, “You’re a failure.” Maybe you’re worried about being called a failure. Maybe you’re worried about being called a loser. “You’ve always been a loser. That’s all you’re ever going to be.” How many of you heard that before? It sucks but it’s not true. You’ve got those doubts that are screaming at you. “You’ve always been a failure, a loser. You fail in everything you do,” and you’re hearing it screaming at you, but in your spirit it’s saying, “Do it again anyway,” and you do it again and then you have victory because you faced that lying noise that was coming at you. You faced it, you proved it wrong and you got to tell it to shut the blank up. That’s the beauty of stepping into fear.
That’s the beauty of stepping into your challenges. It’s the beauty of it because ultimately the victory is already yours but being able to listen to that spirit is everything because it will never lie to you. Unlike the TV, unlike the Match.com profile you have. I’m not making any accusations, just telling you stuff I’ve done. All of it gets to be real. As we give ourselves completely to him, we’ve come to know ourselves more clearly. If you want proof that we were created for connectedness to God, look at the fractions and friction between humanity and creation. We are the only species who can violate the laws of instinct, nature, and in doing so bring more devastation to the creative world.
Live In Harmony
Look at the planet around us. Look at our resources. Look how we’ve taken care of it. Look how we’ve honored it. What idiot would have invented plastic without thinking, “Maybe this should be biodegradable?” You look at our oceans that are polluted by trash, garbage, plastic and even the Coke cans, Coke bottles, straws. We are out of harmony. We’re not saying, “How does this affect mankind? How does this affect animals? How does this affect our planet?” This stuff matters. The harmony, this is the thing I love about hippies and the spiritual movement because they are in touch with the universe that God created. There’s so much more to that relationship. It’s so much more than the vibrations of the planet. We are all meant to connect. We’re all meant to work in harmony together and the way that we treat this planet, the way that we treat each other, the way that we treat our bodies. We’re not in harmony.
This is what God created us for, to be in harmony with each other. The color of our skin that’s different is beautiful. I’m tired of looking at white people because they all look like me. That’s boring. We are all such a beautiful creation, yet we’ve allowed other people to make decisions for us that caused us to start putting people into categories and in cages. She’s like, “You go over here, you go over there and you can’t drink from that.” That’s not what God created us for. How dare we get away from that? Even if you don’t believe in Jesus, you got to believe that you were created from something spectacular. If you believe that something is powerful enough to create you, wouldn’t it be proper to say the closer that you could get to him, the more powerful you are? I hear people say all the time you are who your closest five friends or whatever that expression is. What if I’m close to the person that created the planet? What does that mean for me? Infinite possibilities maybe? It’s possible. Why don’t we give back? Can’t we take a step into faith towards getting back in harmony with the rest of the world and each other?
I’m not religious, but I do like about religion that they do talk about community. It matters. Some of my favorite memories are going to unfortunately my brother’s ex-wife. I love his new wife. I’m saying what I liked about the other family, they were giant. There are hundreds of people who would show up for the holidays. Somebody goes to the hospital and hundreds of people show up. It’s always a party. You got to love Middle Eastern cultures. All my Persian friends, all my Jewish friends, all my Lebanese friends, when they have get-togethers they have some fun. That’s what I’m talking about. Community is amazing, especially when you can keep drama out of it. Some people love drama, but it’s exhausting. Family and community, you get to work together, there’s safety in numbers, there’s protection, there’s love and you’re never alone. That’s a representation of being closer to God, especially because it’s something that he calls us to do.
As humans, we have become out of harmony with creation while every other species works in unison. Talking about wildlife, sea, stuff like that. When God created the universe, he desired for us all to be interconnected as a reflection of his character in glory. What does that mean to you? This is what makes Jesus coming to earth important. He came here to rattle our cages, wake us up to how we treat each other, how we treat ourselves in everything that God created. Jesus didn’t wait. Jesus didn’t come here to divide us. I believe that that’s why Jesus came back was to come here to show us what love is, what forgiveness is, what letting go means, what surrender means, what having a relationship with God was, is always will be and what’s available for people.
I’m not prepared to talk about it, but I found this verse that’s tripping me out because it’s like saying one thing but it’s saying something else in the middle of it. It’s hidden. It’s amazing because it’s confirming everything I talk about ad nauseam, is that we all have spiritual gifts and we get to use them for other people. For all the people that are all about Think and Grow Rich and all of that. There are many layers that are missing to that equation that they’re teaching you in that book. There’s so much more. It’s impossible to be unselfish and not gain. God loves a cheerful giver for a reason. It’s from the heart. Jesus is love and is he a perfect example of what love means for you, me and everything in between.
This is why I love Christ and everything my relationship with him is. The relationship shows us how to live in harmony with all things, including ourselves. I’m done reading. I’ve got one more part. I’m convinced that we have to have a good relationship with ourselves to be able to have a good relationship with others. I’ve always done that in reverse where I wanted someone to complete me. It had to be friends too. I’ve had co-dependent friendships. I’m not going to lie, but it’s where I’ve needed that person to complete me or to make me whole even as a friend. Much of that came because of my poor relationship with myself, my mistrust of myself, the lack of love I had for myself. It’s amazing to see even the smallest of shifts that have come through me having a healthy relationship with myself, honoring myself and making good choices for myself. I’m not going to tell you I’m perfect. I’m not at all, but I’m striving to be as perfect as I can be. I believe that there’s a higher level to get to. In every Bible verse I read, whether it’s in Romans or Hebrews, I see it.
It’s saying that there’s a higher level, not the surface level stuff and it all seems to connect back to the one true living God and all of the promises he’s made. Who we get to be in this world for each other, for our families, for our co-workers, I think so much about how I have complicated things. It doesn’t have to be that hard. Yes, we go through hard things. Yes, we struggle, but if we get honest with ourselves, we can start eliminating those things one-by-one. You’re not going to do it all at once. It doesn’t happen that way. You wouldn’t be able to handle it. I don’t think anyone could, but you do get to work on it one-by-one and there’s so much freedom in doing that. The warrior understands that they are part of the whole. They know they are the most powerful when they are one, when they are undivided and committed to the whole.
What this is saying is some of you don’t want to be a warrior. I’m not talking to you right now. For those of you that believe that you’re a warrior, a warrior queen, a warrior king, people that believe that they are meant for something great, if you are not working to create harmony in the world, you’re missing the most important lesson because life is not about us. It’s not about me. It’s about you. You may go, “Was I was born to serve? What kind of slavery is that?” No, it’s the freedom. It’s the kingdom of heaven. It’s joy. It’s blessings. It’s gratitude. It’s love. It’s friendship. It’s community. It’s being in love. It’s victory. The warrior knows both that they’re a part of the entire universe and the entire universe as part of them. We are all meant to be connected. What can you do now to make yourself more connected to this world? What contribution can you make now? The truth is we are never alone. We may feel alone, yet that is a lie. God created us for communion. God is with us, for us. We rejected our connection to God. We get the blessing to serve. Each of you brings an unexpected benefit to someone every day. It may be as simple as a smile or a hello.
I remember I read The Art of Happiness when I was seeking happiness because I was miserable. I read the Dalai Lama’s book. The only thing I remember the entire book was when you see somebody in an elevator coming out, coming in, smile. That’s what I remember about that book. It’s been powerful. The footsteps of a good man are ordered by the Lord. I try not to move until I feel that. That’s how much that I’m practicing surrender. There’s a little bit of fear attached to that because it’s like, “I’m getting more confidence in surrender because it’s proving that I’m busier.” I’m busier in a place of surrender than I was when I was trying to control everything. I don’t know how that worked. It’s something about making assumptions about God and what assumptions do. Surrender is where I felt the most powerful. Surrender is where I found the most joy. Surrender and resting lead to more purposeful activity than me trying to control everything and being busy. That’s true. That came out of me. I never thought about that before. Thank you so much for everything. If you enjoyed this, tag somebody, share it. I cannot express my gratitude for you enough. It was a lot of fun. I love you. Thank you for your support. You guys have made this show since day one and we wouldn’t be doing what we’re doing without you. Thank you. God bless.